I read a
tweet on twitter some days ago where some Christian girls questioned why many
Christian relationships and marriages fail. It’s a question that many Christians
ask today because we’re supposed to serve as an example to the world and here
we are failing as well. The world looks up to Christians but Christians are instead
looking up to the world. That doesn’t sound good in any way. I had to ponder on
it all day and this is why in my opinion Christian relationships and marriages
fail.
We are not grounded in the Word of Truth: A lot of Christians today pride themselves in
the name as if it’s a trending brand and yet they don’t study the Bible. We
don’t want to study or learn we only want to copy and paste what another
minister has said about God. Many of us Christians don’t know God personally,
what we have is a relationship based on the senses with God, the ‘if you’ and
‘I will’ relationship. For example ‘’God, if you give me what I want, I will
serve you”. Our relationship with God is beyond need fulfillment and remember
that, man can never bargain with God. God is our Father and we are His sons by faith in Christ Jesus. He gave Himself to us in His Son Jesus
Christ, who died in our place and for our benefit. We have been made righteous
in Christ alone. He is the one who defines us and we cannot seek to let someone
or something else define us. Now tell me,
what can God hold back from you? Honestly, there is nothing God has not given
to man in His Son Jesus Christ. Let’s
chill on being overly concerned about relationship status and submit ourselves
to be taught the Gospel of Jesus Christ and everything will fall in its
rightful place in our lives even relationships.
We have an erroneous idea about dating and relationships: As believers we have a lifestyle which flows
from the Author and sustainer of our lives; Jesus Christ. When we let Him love
and lead as He ought to, there will be no heartbreaks and tears. But when we
insist we can author our lives and relationships without Him, we end up in that
web of pain and tears. There’s this thing I noticed about many ‘Christians’
today; they take advice from just about any source. When moralists show up with
a concept they affirm with them that it right and they copy, when our Christian
brethren say what they believe about certain things in relationships, we
quickly say that is where we belong. And now, relativists show up with their
idea of what should be done in relationships, Christians still say ‘welcome’
under the pretext that we are learning. Take note that any text that is taken
out of its original context becomes a pretext. We cannot take everything in,
instead we should submit to the Spirit of Christ in us to love our spouses
better. He is Lord over all things including relationships (Colossians 2:6). He
is here to teach us all things; nothing is big or small for God. Every thing
that concerns His children carries the same weight with no exceptions.
We believe we are like other people: We, as believers in Christ are not like other
people; we have the Spirit of the One true living God in us. We are partakers
of His life. We are co-heirs with Christ and we are one with Him. What people
who have not come to knowledge of Christ do in their relationships should not
serve as our inspiration. This is the reason why so many un-Christian concepts
have gradually found their way in the church today and wrecking marriages and
relationships. Brethren, let the Bible serve as our standard of doctrine, give the
Holy Spirit complete room to teach you, after all, that is His ministry in our
lives. If you have ministers of the gospel in your life, let them teach you, if
you have questions don’t be shy to ask them or you can as well ask the Holy Spirit
for He is the Spirit of truth. With this in mind I believe most of our
anxieties and fears will flee and love will lead.
Beloved of
God, our lives took a new turn at the resurrection of Jesus Christ and when we
confessed Him as Lord of our lives. He became our lives and we became indwelt
by the Holy Spirit. Jesus shared His Father with us by making us sons in
Himself. We have a Father who desires to see us leaving in love towards one
another in marriage. He is love in Himself and only in Him can we better love
one another selflessly. Only through Him can we love truly without judgment and
comparison. In every Christ-‘ian’ relationship love, peace, joy, grace, truth
etc are essentials and these we don’t have of ourselves only in Christ and Him
alone. Rest in the person and finished works of Christ and you will not be put
to shame; not in any area of your life (relationships are no exceptions here).
You’re
blessed!!!
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