VIRGINITY AS LICENSE TO MARRY A GODLY SPOUSE!

 From time to time I read tweets and posts of young Christian men and women who write about their state of virginity. Some go as far as adding how worthy they are of marrying a godly spouse because of their virginity. Holding unto your virginity as license to marry a godly spouse is making it based on works and not God's grace. Works in that, because you kept yourself, God is rewarding you by giving you a godly husband. Whereas, if you marry a godly spouse it is because of His love towards you and the abundance of His grace. He has freely given us all things in Christ Jesus and so we have to receive the people we will share our lives with as a gift of His grace (Galatians 2:16).

Let us be practical here, you keeping yourself is not license to marry a godly man because physically you are basing everything on self righteousness. What about your thoughts and times when you have lusted over other men or women wishing they became your spouse. What about times when you have watched immoral movies or viewed pictures of naked men and women? What about times when you have let people steal kisses from you? There have been many things you may have been involved in that would not have qualified you for a godly spouse but because Jesus being the giver of the best gifts blessed with a godly spouse.

Society has made it look like virginity is a license for a godly spouse: keep your virginity to honor God and your spouse but it is not the sole reason why you will marry a godly spouse. Wait a minute, can you turn a man’s heart to God? Can you keep a man’s heart focused on the things of God? No! conversion is by the Spirit of God and He purposed in Himself our union with Him. I have to be honest with you right now that if you are using virginity (primary, secondary, or tertiary) as a just reason to marry a godly man, you missed the point. In marriage, if at some point in time you are experiencing problems, you will use your premarital state to hate yourself or you will feel like you worked so hard to keep yourself and look at what you ended up with. You will cuss and believe you deserved better whereas it’s because you didn’t receive marriage as God’s gift of grace. You may also be tempted to judge your spouse wrongly in case he/she was not able to keep his/her virginity like you. Countless challenges or problems can emerge in your marital sex life because you have placed too much emphasis on your premarital state of purity and viewing yourself as better or most worthy of some great marital bliss.

Don’t get me wrong, I am a total advocate of purity before marriage because it’s the best way to honor your spouse but don’t look at it like what you did to have a godly man or woman (Colossians 3:23). Train your soul and body to understand that every good thing you will ever have comes from the Father (Ephesians 2:8-9). Refuse to look at keeping yourself as a campaign for a godly spouse but as a means to honor God who dwells in you (Ephesians 1:13, Ephesians 2:8, 1 Corinthians 6:19,2 Timothy 1:14). You want to have sex in marriage because fornication is involving yourself in intimacy with someone without consecration and the Bible is against it. Trust God because you know the person He will give you to share your life with will be for His glory. He will be an unashamed ‘minister’ of the Gospel of Jesus Christ ready at all times to stand for the Gospel. Receive your spouse as part of your inheritance in Christ Jesus and with all humility given to you by God in His boundless love and Grace.

You're Blessed!!