PREPARING TO BE A GODLY WIFE

While unmarried women are trusting God for the man they’ll spend the rest of their lives with and at times they may become frustrated or faced with many emotional challenges. Some days you feel like it’s going to be soon but it seems to take longer than you thought. Avoid feeling depressed or agitated but rather rejoice because it’s a done deal. Being single should be more of a time of preparation and serving with joy and pure intentions.  Give yourself time to grow in the things of God in order to be a blessing to your Godly husband. Below are some of the areas I believe to be a godly and supportive wife you can prepare in.

Be a woman of the Word of God and Prayer: The foundation of a union between two believers is the Word of God. You were created to co-labor with Jesus in reconciling the Word to the Father. Marriage is just part of the blessings of God upon your life and you will continue to serve in the body of Christ even after marriage. Have times that you study the Bible and pray; that way you will continue in the same manner even after marriage. There will always be so much to pray for; your husband, your children, your nation, your ministry or church,  the body of Christ.etc. Knowing your purpose is a plus before marriage.

Be humble and discreet: Humility is a product of your spirit and it is accepting God’s opinion of you. It only comes when you let yourself be ruled and governed by the Word of God. Walking in pride which is the opposite of humility, is making yourself look better and more important than others. Watch out for this because when women come together, there are some amongst them who will always want to brag about their homes, husbands, children and even their achievements. And so you should know what to say when faced with such women. When I talk of being discreet, I mean you should know what to tell your parents, sisters, friends and even what to post on social media etc about your marriage. Not every piece of information in your marriage should leave the four walls of your bedroom. Learn to keep important information to yourself.

Be modest and honorable: When dressing up to go out especially you should ask yourself the following questions;

• Am I dressed like a godly man’s wife?
• Is my husband proud to see me dressed like this?
• Do I reflect a godly woman even in this dressing?

For the second question you may wonder to yourself, because you’re not married but picture it in your mind if he sees you will he be proud of you or will he be somewhat ashamed. As for honor, give yourself respect and don’t flirt with just any man you meet. Be of noble character and walk with integrity and confidence (1Timothy 2:9-10).

Be hospitable and respectful: Rachel was hospital to Abraham’s servant and he found her worthy to be Isaac’s wife. Some young women are afraid to be hospital to strangers for reasons best known to them. Wherever you find yourself don’t esteem yourself better or more spiritual than others. Be polite enough to say “please” and “thank you” where necessary and if anyone needs help, ask them if you can be of help to them and do your best without expecting reward or praise. Get acquainted with words like “sorry” “I apologize” “God bless you” and greet people with a smiley face. When I talk of smiling, you don’t smile as if you feel constipated or you’re being forced; be genuine. Develop the habit of greeting people irrespective of age and size and let people see Christ through these little things.

Be forgiving and tolerant: Everyone has their pet peeves or better still what puts them off. Learn to tolerate other people’s weaknesses, accommodate them in every way possible. Bear in mind that your future husband will not be perfect; he may be a “Bible-carrying”, “tongues-speaking” and totally Jesusfied brother but he is not perfect as a human. Discard every imagination you might have had about your future husband and take him for who he is. Never use his mistakes to judge his faith, be kind to him and assure him of your support always. Take note that if you pray for your husband you won’t criticize him; you will always look for a way to defend or protect his name (Ephesians 4:32, Colossians 3:13).

Be hardworking and smart: Be ready always to work especially in your home; keep it clean (Titus 2:4-5). Be responsible, and if you have a job, work earnestly and with love. Work with zeal; show everyone how much you enjoy what you do. Give wise proposals and contribute to the growth of the organization. If you are an entrepreneur, it’s so awesome, treat you employees with grace and respect. If you don’t have a job yet, try to get one and don’t give in to idleness because it might lead to frustration and desperation (Titus 2:5). If you have a talent which is of commercial value don’t hesitate to use it to generate income for yourself for by so doing you will be celebrating the ability of God in you.

You don’t have to be perfect to be godly wife. Being a godly wife has everything to do with making God number one and be physically active. Serve in your local church in the different committees available. Cook, do laundry, take care of kids, garden and the pets (if there are any). Prepare your mind to be a woman who makes her husband happy, support his dreams and pursuits in life. Be ready to fulfill the purpose of God along with him and to teach your children about Jesus Christ. Depend solely on God for strength to do everything because the journey is long.

You are blessed!!!