“I deserve
it” is a statement that quite a lot of Christians use. When things are good
they are so much like they deserve what is happening to them and when the
challenges of life come they say, they don’t deserve it. Strangely enough when
you say, you deserve something, it means you worked and bargained for it. To be
practical, when you work and you don’t get your salary, the first thing that
comes to your mind is the fact that you deserve to be paid for work done. When
you’re paid less than what you expected, you always try to explain why you
deserve more; because you worked for it. I was reading a believer’s tweet and
she said she can’t wait to be with her godly husband because she deserves it.
The first thing that came to my mind was, “what about Grace”. Ever thought of
that? I said so because when you as a young man or woman you are under the
impression that you deserve to marry a godly spouse simply because you’re born
again. You are missing the point. Saying you deserve it means you worked for it
and you earned it. You prayed long and violent prayers, you paid your tithe,
you are always present for church service, you sowed a seed for marriage, you
kept your virginity and so, these are your strong points for a godly spouse.
God is the
Author of everything and marriage especially, when you are trusting God for a
godly spouse, understand and know that he/she has been given to you because God
loves you and has freely given everything to you by His grace. You don’t work
for God’s blessings; you just have to acknowledge what you have been blessed
with(Ephesians
1:3). The attitude we should all have as believers should be one of receiving
everything as given by God because of His love for us. Insisting that you
deserve God’s blessings is making yourself better than others but Our Gracious
and Loving Father is not a respecter of persons. Receive your spouse as God’s
blessing and not because of anything you did. With this mindset, you will not
expect your spouse to be perfect, you will not define them by their past but
you will love them with the love of Christ (Romans 11:6). Pray daily for your
(future) spouse because they will be facing the challenges of life and they
need to listen to the voice of the Holy Spirit to do what is right. Give thanks
to God for your spouse because he/she is your blessing. Pray as an act of
fellowship with God, give for the work of ministry,
attend every church service because it is an act of worship, keep your body (virginity)
as a way to honor God and your spouse but don't rate these are what got you where you are.
You are
Blessed!!!
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